Introduction: Stealing The Soul -- The Delicate Balance -- The United Front -- When Silence Is Not Golden -- How to Distinguish Between Helpful and Harmful Criticism -- Bad-Mouthing, Bashing, And Brainwashing -- Bad-mouthing -- Bashing -- Brainwashing -- Parental Alienation Syndrome -- Children Who Resist Divorce Poison -- Alienated Children -- The Hate Campaign -- Trivial Explanations for the Hatred -- False Abuse Accusations -- Polarizing Parents: Saints and Sinners -- Parroting Adults -- Declaration of Independence -- Hatred by Association -- Alienation Without Divorce Poison -- Justified Alienation -- Child-Driven Alienation -- Understanding the Roots of Alienation -- Is It Alienation or Not? -- False Accusations of Parental Alienation Syndrome -- Malignant Motives -- Poor Boundaries -- Revenge -- Narcissism -- Guilt -- Insecurity -- Seeking Validation -- Holding On with Hate -- Paranoia -- Reenactments -- Hostility Toward the Children -- Custody Litigation -- Preventing Alienation During Custody Litigation -- Remarriage -- The Alienating Environment -- Isolation -- Relocation -- Kidnapping -- Stripping -- Fear -- The Corruption of Reality -- The Name Game -- Repetition -- Selective Attention -- Judging Behavior Out of Context -- Exaggeration -- Lies -- Revisionist History -- The Total Change Theory -- Suggestions and Innuendos -- Exploitation -- Projection -- Rationalization -- Holier Than Thou -- With God on Our Side -- "The Truth" -- Overindulgence -- Encroachment -- Cloak and Dagger -- Cognitive Dissonance -- Conspiracy -- Tamper-Resistant Packaging -- Poison Control -- Empathy -- The Power of Indirect Communication -- Fly on the Wall -- Two Steps Removed -- Using Third Parties -- Strike While the Iron Is Cold -- Creating Bridges -- Healing Experiences -- Memorializing the Positive -- The Way We Were -- Sowing Seeds in the Psyche -- Vacations -- Divide and Conquer: The Value of Separating Siblings -- Contagion Control: Helping Children Stay Neutral -- With God on Our Side--Revisited -- Agree to Disagree -- No One's Perfect -- Think for Yourself -- Brainwashing 101 -- Films and Television -- Become a Better Parent -- Avoid Common Errors -- Damage Control -- Ann Landers's Reconciliation Day -- Getting Professional Help -- When to Call the Therapist -- How Therapy Can Help -- How You Can Help Your Therapist -- Selecting Therapists -- Conditions of Treatment -- Child Custody Evaluations -- Phasing In Versus Moving In -- Moving Out of One Home Without Moving into the Other -- Hiring an Attorney -- Letting Go -- When to Let Go -- How to Let Go -- Staying in Touch after Letting Go -- New Bridges -- Alienated Children as Adults -- Coping with the Loss -- Hope for the Future.
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