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Taylor, Jim, 1958-

Positive pushing : how to raise a successful and happy child / Jim Taylor.

1st ed.

New York : Hyperion, ©2002.

xxxvii, 266 pages ; 25 cm

A doctor of psychology instructs parents on how to adjust their own expectations to positively suit their children's emotional, intellectual, and physical development so that they can foster a happy, successful, and satisfied achiever.

Child rearing -- United States.

Parenting -- United States.

Parent and child -- United States.

Includes bibliographical references (pages 249-256) and index.

Self-Esteem -- Aren't I Good Enough for You? -- Developing Your Child's Sense of Security -- Developing Your Child's Sense of Competence -- Global Belief -- Specific Belief -- Specific Belief Without Global Belief -- Self-Reflection -- Accuracy of Self-Perceptions -- Rules for Achievement and Happiness -- Can't You Just Love Me for Me? -- Red Flags -- Conditional Love -- Dangling-Carrot Love -- Creating a Human Doing -- Unhealthy Parental Expectations -- Unhealthy Praise and Punishment -- Being a Bottom-Line Parent -- Creating a Unidimensional Child -- Perfectionism -- Giving Healthy Love -- Value Love -- Create a Human Being -- Healthy Parental Expectations -- Healthy Praise and Punishment -- Strive for Excellence -- Parental Dos and Don'ts -- Who Is the Real Me? -- Red Flags -- Self-Hate -- Self-Punishment -- Self-Destruction -- Developing Your Child's True Self -- Know the True Self -- Wage War Against the False Self -- False Self or True Self: Your Choice -- Ownership -- Whose Life Is This, Anyway? -- Your Needs vs. Your Child's Needs -- Red Flags -- Fixing Your Imperfect Self -- Merging with Your Child -- Placing Your Happiness on Your Child's Shoulders -- Losing Perspective -- Overmatching Your Child -- Battle of Wills -- Putting Your Child's Needs First -- Recognize Your Own Needs -- Gain and Maintain Perspective -- Understand Your Child's Needs -- Avoid the Battle of Wills -- Challenge Your Child -- The Sibling Factor -- Get a Life -- Control vs. Nurture Your Child -- Who's in Charge Here? -- Forced Participation -- Guided Participation -- Red Flags -- Taking Away the Fun -- Loss of Motivation -- Find the Fun Again -- Regaining Motivation -- Process of Guided Participation -- Exposure to Achievement Activities -- Time Management -- Initial Impetus -- Provide Resources -- Commitment -- Goal Setting -- Ongoing Encouragement -- Freedom -- Your Child's Choice -- Suggestions for Raising Successful Achievers -- Why Won't You Let Me Grow Up? -- Contingent Children -- Independent Children -- Parent and Child Responsibilities -- Your Responsibilities -- Your Child's Responsibilities -- Red Flags -- Pleasers -- Disappointers -- Reactors -- Frustrators -- Rejecters -- Being Friends with Your Child -- Taking on Your Child's Responsibilities -- Raising an Independent Child -- Be the Parent -- Teach Responsibility -- Demand Accountability -- Encourage Exploration -- Respond to Early Warning Signs -- Life Lessons for Ownership -- Emotional Mastery -- Why Am I So Scared? -- Emotional Threat -- Emotional Vicious Cycle -- Fear of Failure -- Fear of Success -- Emotional Challenge -- Emotional Upward Spiral -- Red Flags -- Performance Anxiety -- Punishment Exceeds the Crime -- Self-Defeating Behavior -- Safety Zone -- Unhappy Success -- Developing Emotional Challenge -- Value of Success and Failure -- Risk-Taking -- Perspective on Mistakes -- Respond Positively to Adversity -- Last 5 Percent -- Emotional Lessons for Achievement -- Will I Be a Child Forever? -- Red Flags -- Immature Attitudes -- Immature Reactions to Disappointment -- Immature Reactions to Frustration -- Immature Anger -- Emotional Overprotection -- Assuming Emotional Maturity -- No Emotions -- Emotional Maturity -- Mature Attitudes -- Mature Reactions to Disappointment -- Mature Reactions to Frustration -- Mature Anger -- Emotionally Mature Parents -- Don't Forget the Positive Emotions -- Keys to Emotional Maturity -- What Can I Do? -- Emotional Habits -- Emotional Victims -- Raising an Emotional Master -- Parents as Emotional Masters -- Perspective of Emotional Masters -- Choosing to Be an Emotional Master -- Developing Emotional Mastery -- Emotional Mastery Is a Process -- Skills for Emotional Mastery.

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